Self-care for improved emotional wellness

Self-care for improved emotional wellness

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Morning friends! It feels so so good to be back to blogging on my regular schedule. Last week, while I was battling bronchitis, it felt like something was missing when I wasn’t putting my ideas down on “paper”. So glad to be back here and writing and communicating with you fine folks!

Can we talk about wellness today? Emotional wellness to be specific?

I have a horrible habit of neglecting myself in order to take care of others. Anyone else? Nearly all my energy is focused on Margs’ needs and often the little bit of extra I do have is divided between Mer and my mother. That’s just how I am – I take care of others before I adequately take care of myself.

A couple of weeks ago, my anxiety flared up pretty badly. Nothing in particular set it off but I spent nearly two weeks in an anxiety spiral that left me frantic, afraid (for no real reason) and constantly searching for ways to make myself feel better. My anxiety usually leaves me seeking out reassurance from close friends and family which I imagine can get extremely draining and demanding on those relationships. Anxiety in many ways is a selfish selfish beast.

self-care & improved emotional wellness

On one particular day, I’d had enough. I just felt so awful: tired, overwhelmed, drained – you know that feeling of being pulled in a million different directions? Yeah that – but, amplified.

I called up my mum and asked her to mind Margs so I could get out for a bit and just be alone with my thoughts to process what was going on. My therapist taught me many moons ago that a flare generally signals a disconnection on some emotional level.

It’s not easy to pin point what’s truly going on. It’s even harder to be honest about it but after some deep soul searching I came to the conclusion that my neglected emotional well being was basically crying out for attention.

After enjoying a fancy coffee (I treat myself to one every few months) I headed back home ready to tackle this problem and come up with a plan that would help me take care of my own emotional wellness. As an anxiety sufferer, I know this isn’t a cure-all. I know that there will always be tougher days where these types of methods go out the window to just survive. Anxiety steals your joy – and some days no matter how prepared you are to tackle it – it rears it’s ugly head and you crumble to pieces. But, with a solid plan in place to care for myself I hope that I can perhaps lessen the lengths of my flares and eventually avoid them altogether.

5 tips for self-care and improved emotional wellness

Schedule time to meditate I’ve written about this before but mediation is really a vital part of my daily life. I often catch myself listening to The Daily Meditation podcast from Sip and Om. They are generally short podcasts that are easy to squeeze in throughout the day. I catch myself plugging in during nap times or during a warm evening soak. Such an incredible way to find my center after especially rough days.

Indulge in aromatherapy. Essential Oil Diffusers and essential oils kits like this set that comes from Organic Aromas is such an incredible way to treat yourself to a calming environment that not only does wonders for relaxation but fills your home with a lovely aroma. Did you know that lavender is known to help induce a calming state? Not only does it help heighten relaxation but is a great way to help relieve stiffness and muscles aches!

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Listen to podcasts to disconnect and refocus My favorites are geared towards managing stress and anxiety. Recently, I’ve really been enjoying The Anxiety Guy Podcast, The Anxiety Coaches and The Overwhelmed Brain.

Stop Over-Thinking Easier said than done right? I came across a quote recently and it has really helped shape the way I view my own anxiety and approach living in the moment. Focusing on today is difficult but in this context it just makes so much sense doesn’t it?

“The past has flown away. The coming month and year do not exist. Ours only is the present’s tiny point.” – Mahumud Shabistari

Create rituals that bring you joy It’s just so important to find time to do things you love despite the chaos that surrounds you. For me, that looks like spending quiet time by myself every morning, enjoying a long warm soak at night and taking the time to focus on projects that bring me happiness and peace like gardening, knitting and photography.

What are your go-to emotional wellness techniques?



  1. April 26, 2017 / 12:08 pm

    The way I come out of it, is express myself in any form. But when I am really frustrated and drain out, I do what I normally don’t do. I cook, paint, travel, play xbox, writing.

    I kept all these things, and don’t do on a regular basis, so that I don’t lose the interest in it. The purpose is to do something, which you don’t do regularly.

    However, I can understand, taking care of a little soul is not easy, it’s demanding and sometimes you are not rewarded properly from your spouse or one is just drained out.

    It’s I guess natural and normal in my eyes.

    • April 26, 2017 / 8:35 pm

      I think we need to find what works for us individually ya know? If that has been working for you then clearly it’s valuable to your self-care and you should 100% keep at it!

  2. April 26, 2017 / 1:57 pm

    Thank you for your mindful suggestions! Take care.

    • April 26, 2017 / 3:36 pm

      Thank you for reading! Have a wonderful day!

  3. April 26, 2017 / 4:21 pm

    Great suggestions:) Getting alone with God is usually my pick me up (which I guess fits under the meditating one.) Also, I’m right there with the essential oils!

    • April 26, 2017 / 4:45 pm

      Yes! Essential oils are wonderful aren’t they! Which is your favorite?

  4. April 26, 2017 / 6:06 pm

    Self care has always been an issue for me too. I think it’s something about being a woman and having that natural instinct to care for everyone. Not saying men don’t have anxiety too, but I feel like often times theirs comes from a slightly different place. Since I’ve discovered Buddhism, I’ve been a lot better about self care, but I still slip from time to time. Meditation is definitely on the list. Sometimes I also have to just practice being firm when I really can’t do something. It’s hard to tell someone no especially when they are begging you, but if the task at hand isn’t life threatening and I honestly don’t have the energy to put into it, I have to say no. I’ve also been relying on naps at times as well. Sometimes you just need an hour or so to recharge and that can help a lot. I really like your fancy coffee idea too, sometimes it is nice to treat yourself. I’ve dabbled in essential oils and I agree they are lovely. I also have a Himalayan Salt Lamp that seems to help too. Lavender scented stuff is the best! Always good for a calming atmosphere.

    • April 26, 2017 / 8:34 pm

      You bring up such an important point. I’m terrible at saying no and it’s absolutely something I need to focus on improving. Well done for being able to put your foot down!

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